Are you sick of it? Well, I certainly am!
Yes, I fulfill both criteria above: 1) As much as I hate to admit it, I AM in my late 20’s *sob sob* & 2) I’m in a steady relationship for over 2 years now.
Why can’t these kind of nosy, annoying people just back off and get a life and expose themselves to more intellectual things so that they’ll have more interesting questions to ask besides the no-brainer ‘When Are You Getting Married?’
Recently, I came across an article in Cleo addressing this issue and I found myself nodding and agreeing to what the writer had to say about people who constantly ask couples when they’re getting married. These people are giving unnecessary pressure to couples. The article even had tips to fend off the dreaded ‘question’ once and for all… Haha… But I doubt that it’ll help in ending the annoying ‘question’ once and for all.
Sigh… We’re all ‘expected’ to do certain things when we reach certain stages of our lives. We’re expected to go to school and study hard when we were kids. We’re expected to get a job right after graduation. We’re expected to reach a certain position in our careers at a certain age. We’re expected to buy a house and a car at the certain age. And we’re expected to tie the knot when we reach a certain ‘marriageable’ age. And it doesn’t end there! After we’re married, we’re expected to make babies. Whoa! All of a sudden, newly-weds has become re-production machines. If I have it my way, I’ll break away from the social norm and all the ‘expected’ mentality. I’d like to just quit my job and travel, honestly. Apply for a working holiday visa and backpack in Europe. Of coz I can’t really do that, coz it’ll break both my parents hearts. This isn’t exactly the conventional ‘expected’ behavior for a girl my age. My parents, unfortunately, are also prisoners trapped in the ‘expected’ societal norm and mentality. Must conform to what is expected. So now that I reach the ‘marriageable’ age, tongues are wagging as to when I’ll walk down the aisle in a white dress and veil. My parents are subtly hinting. Relatives and friends are more blunt about it. Gawd! Can’t they just leave me alone??!!
Frankly speaking, it’s none of anyone’s freaking business when it comes to MY marriage. I mean, a marriage only involves 2 pepople so they get to decide when they want to get hitched and they’re not obliged to report their nuptial plans with anyone if they choose not to. Heck, they can choose to elope if both of them feel like doing so coz at the end of the day, they’re the ones spending the rest of their lives together, NOT those kepochis!
So, I’ll decide to be someone’s missus as and when I feel I’m ready to take the plunge and I do not need to answer to every Tom, Dick and Harry who asks the no-brainer ‘question’ why or when or whatever. Also, I’m perfectly capable of organizing my own wedding, thank you very much. Should I decide to have a wedding, I have enough brains and resources to actually plan it properly and have it done perfectly. I am afterall, a perfectionist and extremely organized. Therefore, planning my own wedding is not a problem. Don’t need unwanted advise and voluntary help from self-appointed ‘know-it-all’ wedding planners. I mean, how many weddings have they planned? One? Which was their own? So, just coz they got married all of a sudden they’re experts? Then, all professional wedding planners will have to tutup kedai. If I need help, I’ll engage in the services of a professional. Not from some well-meaning but annoyingly nosy relative/ friend. 
So, NO! I’m NOT getting married anytime soon so STOP asking!! You’ll know when I do coz you’d get an invite, unless, haha… You piss me off so much with the constant badgering I blacklisted you. And NO, I don’t need wedding planning services from anyone, so BUTT OUT!! Unless I ask for your help. 
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